How the LGBTQIA+ Community Changed Fostering

For much of history, LGBTQIA+ people were excluded from fostering and family life by law, policy, and deeply embedded social attitudes. For decades, LGBTQIA+ people were widely viewed as unsuitable to care for children, not because of evidence or outcomes, but because of prejudice,  ignorance, and discriminatory beliefs about sexuality and gender identity.

Change came through sustained activism, increased visibility, and legal reform. Legislation such as the Adoption and Children Act 2002 enabled same-sex couples to adopt jointly. It was not until 2014 that same-sex marriage became legal in England and Wales, marking a significant shift in how LGBTQIA+ families could be formally recognised. The Equality Act 2010 further strengthened protections against discrimination, including in fostering and adoption.

Together, these changes began to open doors for LGBTQIA+ people to foster more openly and with greater legal protection, though barriers, bias, and inequality have not disappeared and continue to shape lived experiences today.

As rights expanded, so did confidence and inclusion within fostering services. Many carers speak about how acceptance and support made fostering possible. Here are reflections from Nexus foster carers over the years:

 “Being in a same-sex relationship has never been questioned throughout our time with Nexus Fostering; they treat us the same as any other foster carer.” Josie & Andrea

“…we have never been made to feel different, and we have always felt not only included but valued. We have no hesitation in recommending fostering to other gay people.” Matthew & Joe

Across the fostering community, carers consistently highlight that support and belief make the difference. Kim, reflecting on her journey, shared:

“There were a few tears along the way, but there was never anything that caused us real concern. Nexus guided us through the process and explained everything clearly.” Kim & Nicola

She also spoke honestly about the challenges — and the reassurance of not facing them alone:

“Once you push through those challenging moments, you realise the incredible impact you’re having on the children’s lives. There’s a huge light at the end of the tunnel.” Kim & Nicola

Nexus LGBTQIA+ carers echo this sense of purpose and reward:

“You are the one who can make a difference, so grab the bull by the horns and enjoy your rodeo. Although becoming a new foster carer can feel quite intrusive, our fostering experience has been so rewarding.” Eammon & Chris

Today, LGBTQIA+ foster carers are a vital part of a more inclusive, child-centred care system. Their stories reflect how fostering has evolved — from exclusion to inclusion — and how recognising diverse families ultimately leads to better outcomes for children.

Ready to Foster with Nexus?

At Nexus Fostering, foster carers are supported every step of the way. You’ll receive comprehensive pre-approval training, ongoing development opportunities, and specialist guidance in trauma-informed care, attachment and safeguarding. With a dedicated supervising social worker, 24/7 out-of-hours support and access to peer networks, you’ll never be on your own.

If you’re thinking about fostering — as an individual, couple or family — Nexus is here to help you take the next step. Get in touch today to find out how you can make a lasting difference to a child’s life.